Monday, March 23, 2009

Marital Moments Issue 27 - Couples That Laugh Together...

***I have decided to start my Spring Cleaning; so I will be posting some of my favorite previous posts this week. I will still be reading and leaving comments; just not writing. I hope you will enjoy them!***

Laughing with your Spouse

One of my all time funniest memories with my spouse was made when we were in a volleyball league together. A group of us at our church had decided to form a team at a local recreational center. Sadly however, I think we were the only two who had actually really played before. We had joined it for "fun," but all of you who know us know how competitive we both are. It was a humbling season to say the least. I don't think our team won a single game (except maybe the one we won by forfeit because the other team didn't show up!) But we had a lot of fun with our team.

There was one team in particular who we played twice. The first time they creamed us and instead of being good sports, they just outright disrespected and made fun of some of our team members. When we realized we would be playing them again, our competitive spirit got the best of my husband and I. We worked hard with our teammates to make sure it wasn't going to be a repeat of the first go round.

We were doing well. Scoring points. Making them take us seriously as competition. That is when their "star" server began serving. She would throw the ball up in the air and then jump up to the ball and hit it over in a serve. It looked cool. She was good. They scored a few points with her serve. Then it was my husband's turn to serve. Adrenalin was high. He decided to match their energy and service. He threw the ball up, jumped to meet the ball in a serve....and TOTALLY missed the ball. It was FUNNY! O.k., maybe it was one of those moments where you had to be there to see the humor in it, but I laughed so hard and I could NOT stop. I am laughing now as I write this just remembering it! (He laughed too after the initial embarrassment-he's great like that!)

What is my point in telling you all of this? Laughter is such an important component in marriage. Think back to when you were dating, engaged, and first married. Do you remember laughing together? As we age and life gets so serious and busy it is easy to forget to laugh together. Remember to be willing to laugh at yourself. We have also had slap happy late nights watching funny movies. I'd love to hear what you and your spouse do to pursue laughter. You can comment by clicking on the "comment" button beneath this post.

A merry heart does good, like medicine; but a broken spirit dries the bones.” (Proverbs 17:22NKJV)

Many Blessings!

Shanda

7 comments:

MOMSWEB said...

My husband usually does all the laughing -- at me. He always says how funny I am, but I'm just being me. Laughter is definitely a big part of our relationship. Great, great post!

Mr. Daddy said...

couldn't agree more. thats one of the best things about Rach her ability to laugh at herself, and others without being mean. And as laughing is a universal language, there was no need for me to learn a sign for it. :o) (how cool is that)

Gretchen said...

Laughter should be the essential when looking for a mate. Forget pretty eyes or cute butt. If we couldn't laugh at ourselves or our children every day...we'd be in such sorry shape.

joanofalltrades said...

Funny......I had almost the identical experience but with a softball team for my job. I hadn't gone over the rules with my husband. He hit a triple and slid into 3rd base just as the woman at 3rd base was trying to tag him. He knocked her over and she fell on top of him. Everyone was screaming at him, "there's no sliding!" He just had a look on his face like, "what?" The only thing he was concerned about was winning. We are both competitive that way. To this day we still laugh about it. Laughing is one of the things we do best together. We just both find each other incredibly funny and we can laugh with and at each other every day.

Amanda @ Serenity Now said...

We love to just sit and watch our girls sometimes--they provide enough laughs for days. ;)Funny story!

rhemashope said...

Too funny. Your husband must be awesome to let you post about his TOTAL MISS for all the world to see. Haha!
Yes, I think my husband and I could stand to laugh some more together. Jokes that just he and I shared many years ago are still precious to us.

Rachel said...

Ahh, I see my husband has already posted on this one :) Which means you now know how clumsy I am because I *have* to laugh at myself so often.
I just figure it's a public service to give others a chance at comic relief.

Yes, it's true - we laugh with eachother over goofy things and it really helps get through some tough times.